Einstein defined insanity as, “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” In my line of work, it can also mean, “Asking the same thing over and over again just to ask the same thing over and over again.”
“Does he like me? Is he gonna ask me out?”
“Are they gonna break up?”
“Is she gonna get back together with me?”
“Am I still gonna hear from them?”
It doesn’t matter what the question is. People who ask the same question over and over are usually not looking for the answer, a job, a relationship, or a solution, in spite of what they think. They’re looking for you.
“Broken Record Readings” are an all-too common phenomenon where the querant becomes less and less interested in the answer and more obsessed with the question. Sounds silly, but it’s not that much different than a smoker lighting a cigarette, putting it down, and lighting another one or someone applying lip conditioner every two minutes. It’s about the process more than the objective. In other words, it’s not about having that cigarette or a soft mouth, but the control of the lighter and the sensation of the lips being touched.
That also goes for those reading for themselves, as well. “I keep asking if we’re going to start a relationship and the cards keep saying the same thing.” (Okay. Great…Now what?)
Those who indulge in Broken Record Readings are commonly known as “Tarot Junkies,” though everyone in the divination field (psychometrists, mediums, etc.) have their share, especially mediums.
Now, this shouldn’t be confused with asking a few psychics for second or third opinion on a subject, which is a fairly reasonable process. Every divinationist / psychic sees a different perspective on the issue, so I don’t think there’s anything wrong with trying to assess your situation from as many angles as you can. However, when two or three turns into 10 or 20, that’s a red flag.
Deciphering a Junkie’s pretty easy:
1 – When they say, “I’ve talked to so many psychics about this and they all say…” or
2 – They call you every day or every other day with the same question
A warning sign:
“Has anything changed since I last talked to you?”
Sometimes, the broken record response is triggered by the subconscious desire for the sound of the answer to manifest the fantasy. (see “You’re the Psychic, Make it Happen!” https://msrayspsychicepisodes.wordpress.com/2011/06/08/youre-the-psychic-make-it-happen/ )
It can also be reactionary to flat out denial.
However, someone can look at the Junkie and just see someone who needs a friend and that can be very true. Nothing wrong with that. Everybody needs someone to talk to sometimes and that’s exactly why I’m here!
But, when “sometimes” turns into “very often,” then not only are you now dealing with boundary issues but, you have to remember that they’re paying for that sense of friendship.
That’s not good.
Loneliness is a wretched, horrible feeling that starts within the self. It takes a little courage and a little confidence to reach out or reciprocate attention with the hopes of making a human connection. To get that courage, we have to make eye contact, step out of our safety zone, and make ourselves vulnerable to possible rejection. It can be a little scary, but potentially very fulfilling. It means taking a risk.
Paying for companionship is the easy way out.
In the real world, loyalty, respect, adoration, and attention is earned through action and response. You have to be willing to take on the responsibility to receive as well as give. So, ask yourself, if someone’s breaking out their wallet for human interaction, do you think that they’ll be open to a real relationship or a demanding career move? Most likely not. Paying for it gives the illusion of instant entitlement, but it is just that: An illusion.
A prostitute is not your lover. A doctor is not a god. A psychic is not your friend.
Can we be caring? Absolutely! Can we be sympathetic and friendly? Of course! The bond between a psychic and his/her client is a special intimate, unique, and sometimes very intense connection. But, true friendship works two ways and though it definitely constitutes giving and receiving, it is not, in essence, a “business deal.”
Another main concern for the Tarot Junkie is that if they’re so hung up on one issue or the process of calling you, then they’re not living their lives. It’s easy to get so focused on what we want that we don’t notice the world passing by – I think everyone’s been guilty of this one time or another. But, when the object of our obsession gets in the way of the object of our existence, then it’s officially an addiction.
I can’t allow my cards to be someone’s crack pipe.
So, when I start getting the broken record calls, I’ll just stop and ask, “How can I help you?” Usually, they’ll repeat the question, but then I’ll state something like, “Yes, and I believe I have answered that for you but you don’t seem to be accepting the answer. You’re obviously not satisfied, so what can I do for you?” This seems to be effective in redirecting the reading to a more constructive dialogue. Sometimes, I’ve had to point out, “Do you realize you’ve asked me the exact same question three times in the past two minutes?” or “I believe we had just spoken about this last night. Please help me understand — what kind of changes are you expecting in such a little amount of time?”
You’d be amazed how many times they’ll respond, “Oh. Have I?” or “I don’t know.”
Of course, there’s a risk of losing the client, which sucks. But, if calling them on their behavior could potentially help them snap out of their self-hypnosis, then I think it’s worth it. Then again, they could just take up with another psychic in hopes that he or she will indulge.
I’m pretty proud to say that I’ve met more colleagues that would take the high road than those who won’t. It’s nice to be in good company.