There’s nothing worse.
Whether it be in romance, family, career, wherever, whatever, there is nothing more frustrating than being able to see the iceberg, but no matter what you say or do, the captain just refuses to turn the wheel.
“It’s an iceberg!”
“Nah, just some cool whip dumped from a plane. Don’t worry about it.”
“No, I’m telling you, it’s an iceberg!”
“Come on, that’s not an iceberg – it’s just some Styrofoam that the wind blew into the water. Don’t be so dramatic.”
“IT. IS. AN. ICEBERG! And we are sailing straight towards it!”
“Well, okay, how about we make an appointment to talk about it after…”
Poorly directed business decisions, detrimental behavioral patterns repeating themselves, whatever the situation, are ingredients for failure. If someone else is in control and they’re not paying attention to the bigger picture, the immediate needs, or anything else besides their own ideals, no matter how well intended they may be, then why shouldn’t it be in your right to give them a head’s up, especially if your own well-being is at stake? Besides, it’s much easier to be on the outside looking in, because as you know, you can’t tell if it’s raining if your head’s underwater.
Denial, ignorance, ego, and fear is a foolproof recipe for disaster. Believing you’re untouchable, not willing to face all the probabilities positive or negative, thinking you’re too good to make mistakes, cowering at the thought of change, unwilling to break out of your own fantasy, not paying attention to how your choices affect others are all “icebergs” that can sink 10 “Titanics-worth” of ideas, projects, or relationships.
If you’re only looking at the benefits and not the responsibilities of your choices, then you better get the lifeboats ready. And if you’re not willing to open your eyes, then you should at least be willing to open your ears.
Many of us have been there, psychic or not. We’ve seen bosses make really bass-akward choices that have had too many consequences than the trouble was worth, we’ve seen our partners spend money on something they shouldn’t have, loved ones falling for someone that is going to tear their hearts out…we’ve all had our turns in the crow’s nest. That’s part of being a communal animal: Paying attention and connecting to what and who is around you. Whether the signs are logically concluded or our psyches are screaming in neon, our survival instincts will always take over if we’re paying attention. As humans have evolved into needing more than just food and water, we’re further programmed to pick up disturbances in other aspects of the Force that are directly inclusive to our needs, such as money, love, and mental / spiritual health.
And sometimes, if we yell, “Iceberg!” loud enough, the person at the helm will respond. But, all too often, especially in the current climate of technology where fantasy is king, the captain is either too busy, too lazy, too stubborn, or too scared to trust someone with good intention and simply make a change. You know you’re heading for trouble when you bring the matter to their attention, they might make excuses, put off taking actions, make you feel irrelevant or try to confuse you, or even try to intimidate you to get you to shut up. Essentially, if you’re very sure of your facts, you know you have a case, and your intentions are true, then pretty much any response other than, “Okay I’m listening” or even “Show me,” is not a good sign.
In those cases, the final choice is up to you. The very first thing to understand is that there are actually choices! If you don’t know what they are, ask and find out. It’s a big world out there, after all. If the ship is sinking and you’re willing to make a change, then consider the options:
1 – Mutiny. Yup, you can pool your resources and take over the helm, if you have to. You may end up the villain, you may end up the hero, or you may end up sinking, anyway. But, if you really don’t care what others think of you and you have the resources, then rock on with your bad self.
2 – Secure your own lifeboat. Start finding another job, another place to live, or another situation so that when the ship hits the berg, you’ll be floating to safety and Twittering, “I told you so,” from your raft. Whether or not you want to keep it quiet is completely up to you.
3 – Replace the captain. Now, this could also be considered mutiny, but the only difference is you’re not taking the helm, yourself. Just remember that there’s a risk that the new captain could be just as boneheaded as the old one.
4 – Give up fighting and go down with the ship. Sure, you could still do that! Stick it out and see what happens. Maybe things won’t turn out as bad as you might think, but it’s no more or less risky than any other option, right?
5 – Jump and swim. How long can you tread water? Only one way to know…
Just remember that whatever choice you make should be something you are willing to accept responsibility for and live with. And if you’re still not sure what to do, then just remember why you’re on the ship and where it was promised to go in the first place.